Being a parent is tough. On top of the many challenges we face as moms, we often find ourselves judged and with a lack of support when it comes to some of our most carefully thought out parenting choices. Even family and close friends can surprise you with some of their comments and thoughts, and breastfeeding in public is no exception to this. Though many will be supportive of your efforts, others won’t understand or appreciate the hardship or sacrifices of breastfeeding. This can make family gatherings more anxiety-ridden for new moms, especially when nursing is involved.
As a newer breastfeeding mom, it might be hard to imagine a time when you’ll feel comfortable nursing outside of the couch, with a plethora of pillows in the perfect positions. How, then, do you go about navigating these occasions and ensuring your and your baby’s comfort? First, realize that breastfeeding in public is natural. There is nothing sexual about feeding your baby, and you should feel confident in your feeding choices regardless of what anyone else says. Know, too, that it is your legal right to breastfeed in public in the vast majority of states here in the US.
You also need to recognize and respect your own personal limits and comfort zone. If you don’t feel comfortable breastfeeding around others without a cover, then bring one and rock it!
If you don’t enjoy wearing covers, skip them. You have a right to be comfortable feeding your baby in a way that works best for you both. Sometimes, many moms aren’t yet comfortable nursing at family gatherings and opt to skip them altogether while their babies are young. This is also ok! Your loved ones should understand that this is a time in your life where you will put your baby’s needs first as you’re adjusting to breastfeeding and motherhood.
To get comfortable breastfeeding in public, it also helps to have support from loved ones such as your partner, mother, or a close friend. Consider joining a breastfeeding support group, either in person or virtually. It always helps to have a group of like-minded moms in your corner, especially when it comes to feeling comfortable breastfeeding in public and outside of your home. They can share their own fears and frustrations, as well as what worked for them. This is a great way for all of you to learn from each other.
Another way to feel more at ease nursing in public is to take baby steps, beginning at a familiar place and with a supportive friend. Consider meeting your support person for lunch or during a time when you know you’ll need to feed your baby. Practice at home in front of a mirror first if it makes you more comfortable. Many moms are accustomed to certain positions, such as the football hold, that can seem awkward to recreate in public. Consider using your diaper bag as a prop for your elbow, instead! This will get you accustomed to nursing in smaller or less optimal places, making your day more flexible. Wear comfortable clothing and bring a cover-up, if desired. Many moms also swear by the “two shirt method,” in which they wear a nursing tank top layered under a t-shirt while breastfeeding. This essentially covers you more than just a traditional tank top, but you don’t feel as constrained as you do with a cover.
Not all moms will feel comfortable breastfeeding in public. Some prefer to stay in a car, while others will sit openly on a public bench. Feeding your baby is never something to feel ashamed or embarrassed of. With that said, you also have a right to stay inside your comfort zone. You are the one who knows what’s best for you and your baby.
Remember – with a good support system in place, you can do anything. Find a support person who will cheer you on through the transition of gaining comfort feeding your baby in public places or simply around some friends and family members. Many moms with postpartum depression or baby blues state that they feel very isolated when it comes to caring for their newborn – nursing in public will allow you more flexibility and open up a world of possibilities for more time spent running errands, meeting friends, and getting back into your rhythm.
I found that once I breastfed in public a few times it felt so natural, what was your experience like, and were you able to overcome that initial shock?
